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Guca imyeyo:Uko naciye imyeyo

Iribagiza Honoline(Izina ryahinduwe kubw’umutekano we), ubu ni umugore arubatse ndetse abyaye kabiri, Mukiganiro yagiranye n’ibyamamare.com, yatuganirije atubwira uko yaciye imyeyo.


Ese ni gute yakoze uwo muhango wo guca imyeyo, yabigenje ate kandi n’iki yari agamije kugeraho kugirango abashe kwihanganira ibyo yahuye nabyo bitoroshye ubwo yari muri iki gikorwa? Cyera byarakorwaga cyane , ese kuri ubu ho bimeze bite kubakobwa baca imyeyo?
Mu magambo ye uyu mwari mutegarugori ati  Mu ntangiriro sinarinzi iyo biva niyo bijya ndetse sinari naziko bibaho. Nari mfite imyaka 10 , ubwo nigaga mu mwaka wa 3 w’amashuri abanza. Murugo nakuranye n’umukobwa wandutaka mu myaka , akaba ari nawe waje kunyigisha guca imyeyo.
Nakundaga kubabona biherereye we n’umukozi wabaga mu rugo nkayoberwa ibyo barimo, umunsi umwe nababajije ibyo barimo bambwirako baba bari kwiganirira ngo nanjye njye nza banganirize.
Ubwambere ngiye ngo banganirize bahise bambwira ngo nkuremo akambaro k’imbere mbereke maze bibanza kuntera ubwoba bibasabako nabo babanza bakanyereka . Baranyeretse kandi koko mbonako hari aho ibitsina byacu bitandukaniye kuko bo bari bamaze igihe bakora icyo gikorwa cyo guca imyeyo.
Nifuje kumenya icyo babikorera maze bambwirako aribwo umugore yishima cyane arinako ashimisha umugabo we mu gihe cyo kubaka urugo(igihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina) kandi ngo ninabwo uba wujuje ubugore nyabwo, maze nanjye mpita ntangira guca imyeyo kuva icyo gihe.
Batangiye kujya bagenda bakurura imwe ku myanya ndangagitsina cyanjye arinako banyereka uko nzajya mbyikorera igihe badahari .
Ntago ari ibintu bipfa kworoha cyane kuko iyo urimo ukurura wa mubiri wawe ninako uba ubabara ariko nyuma bidatinze ukabimenyera.
Nabitangiye kuva icyo gihe mfite imyaka 10 ngenda niberaho muri ubwo buzima kugeza mbonyeko hari ibice byo kumyanya ndangagitsina cyanjye yakwedutse igakura . Ubwo ibyo byose nanjye nabikoze ngambiriye kuzajya nyurwa ndetse nkananyura umugabo wanjye mugihe turi mu gikorwa cy’imibonano mpuza bitsina.
Kuba narakoze ibyo byose ariko nirinze kugira umuhungu n’umwe turyamana Atari umugabo wanjye kuko intego yanjye yari ukuzubaka ummuryango wanjye tukabaho mubyishimo. Nagerageje uko nshoboye ngumana ubusugi bwanjye kugeza igihe uwo turushinze ariwe mbumburiye amaguru.
Ariko muri izo nzira nanyuzemo ngamije gushimisha umugabo wanjye ,mbere y’uko ndyamana n’umugabo wanjye namubajije ari uhitamo umugore waciye imyeyo n’utarayiciye uba uhisemo neza, maze nza gutungurwa n’igisubizo yampaye cyatumye numvako atari itegekoko buri mugore wese atagomba kuba yaraciye imyeyo.
Umugabo wanjye mbimubaza yambwiyeko ibyo we atabigenderaho icyangombwa ari uko ankunda ntakindi yitayeho. Ibyo byanatumye kandi numvako niyo mba ntarayiciye imyeyo bitari kumubuza kunkunda ngo tunaryoherwe.
Iki gikorwa cyo guca imyeyo cyabayeho kuva cyera ndetse no kugeza n’ubu hari benshi mubakobwa bakitabira gukora uyu muhango n’ubwo bitagikunzwe nka mbere abakobwa babifataga nk’umuco . Abandi bo muri kino gihe , abenshi ntibabiha umwanya ngo babyiteho.
INKOMOKO YO GUCA IMYEYO
Gukuna cyangwa Guca imyeyo mu yindi mvugo ni umwe mu mihango yo mu muco nyarwanda yo hambere ndetse ikorwa n’umubare muto w’abakobwa b’iki gihe tugezemo. N’ubwo abanyarwanda bazi ko ari umwihariko wabo ,hari ibindi bihugu bigira uyu muhango,aha twavuga: Repuburika Iharanira Demokarasi ya Congo,Zimbabwe,Sudani,Afurika y’Epfo n’ibindi bihugu biherereye muri iki gice cy’Afurika,Benin.
Impamvu gukuna byiswe guca imyeyo ni uko akenshi iki gikorwa cyakorwaga n’abakobwa babaga bagiye guca imyeyo yo gukubuza. Si buri mukobwa wese wakoraga uyu muhango. Umukobwa wese wabaga ageze mu kigero cy’ubwangavu yagombaga gukuna.
UKO  GUCA IMYEYO  BIKORWA MU BUSANZWE.
Wicaza ikibuno hasi, ugashinga ibirenge ku buryo amavi ashobora kugera ku ntugu zombi, ukanyuza amaboko munsi y’ibibero ufite rwa ruvange rw’ibyo ukunisha cyangwa se amavuta y’inka akuze (iyo ari intangiriro), ukuboko kumwe gukurura umushino biteganye. Kaba kakiri gato noneho kakagenda gakura uko uhataho ukuna, ukururira rimwe ujyana hasi, mu ntangiriro birababaza ndetse rimwe na rimwe ukumva wabireka, ari nayo mpamvu abakobwa bakuniraga hamwe barenze umwe kugirango batizanye umurindi. Iyo umaze kugira umushino ufatika, ugeraho ugakuna utazura umushino mu bugari bwawo kugirango biwugire mugari, kugeza ugwije” imyugariro”.
Iyo ukurura ucunganwa no kutarenza urugingo rwa kabiri rwa musumbazose cm 6-7, hari n’abanezezwa no gukuna akarurenza ariko byitwa “gukuna ibiziriko”, ndetse ngo uwakunnye ibiziriko agira umushyukwe cyane ndetse akifuza vuba igitsina mu gihe ari mu minsi y’uburumbuke, gusa hakabaho kwifata kugirango atiyangiriza ubukobwa bwe. Uretse uku gukuna bisanzwe, ngo hari n’indi mihango yakorwaga: Guhaguruka agasimbiza ya myenda yari yicariye ngo ibyo ni ugukuza ibintu bye ngo bijye ejuru. Hanyuma akunama cyane agakoza ibiganza hasi avuga amagambo bucece, agapfukama agakubita ku bibero bye akavuga andi bityo bityo.
Yarangizaga gukuna agakubita utugeri hasi akazamura agatsinsino akagakoza mu ntege ati “sindega ikicaro cy’undi ngo ahebe. Umukobwa arahanyura akanyongerera, n’umugore akahanyura akanyongerera. » Yarangiza akarundarunda neza ubwatsi yari yicariye agasubira muri ya magambo. Yarangizaga ibyo byose ngo akahabyinira akadiho yishimira ko yagwijije cyangwa se ko azagwiza vuba, ni uko ati “agati gaciye ntikabura izuba”.
Abakobwa benshi bagiye kurangiza guca imyeyo umwe yabwiraga undi ati, « amashyo n’amagana”, undi ati “amagana yuzukuruke imishino”. Maze bagataha. Bararangizaga bagahagurukira rimwe ntawe utanze undi ngo bakunde bazagwirize rimwe.
Abakobwa barangije gukuna bashoboraga no gukurakuza. Ibingibi kukaba kwari ugusiganaho ibitsina byabo (nk’abakora imibonano), babiri babiri, ngo umwe akaba ari kongerera mugenzi we. Iyo na none babaga bageze nko ku ruzi, bashoboraga gufata inyogaruzi bakayishyira ku moko y’ibere ngo irirume hanyuma rizakure vuba.
AKAMARO
Abakobwa bo ha mbere bakoraga uyu muhango mu rwego rwo kuzizihira abagabo babo mu mibonano mpuzabitsina. Ikindi byabamariraga ni ukurinda ko hari umwanda wakwinjira mu gitsina(Vagin cyangwa Rutezo mu Kinyarwanda). Nta myenda y’imbere(Amakariso) bagiraga. Kuri ubu ababikora baba bashaka kubahiriza umuco wa ba sogokuruza ndetse no kuzaryohereza umugabo mu gihe batera akabariro ku rugo.
Ese kuba hasigaye habaho abagore benshi batagendeye muri iyi mihango nyarwanda ya cyera m ubona hari icyo byakwangiza mumibanire yabo n’abagabo babo mungo zabo? Ese koko hari itandukaniro riboneka muburyohe kuri aba baba baraciye imyeyo igihe bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina?
Shyiraho Igitekerezo!

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